that-catholic-shinobi:

fictionadventurer:

“That’s not my mom/grandmother/dad/grandfather, etc.”

I promise you it is. They’ve been altered by disease, but it didn’t erase their identity. They still have many of the same personality traits and interests and memories that they always had, and even the parts that have changed can still be worth knowing. There are those who only know them as they are now, and they can still find them funny and fascinating and likable and endearing, and you don’t want to miss out on this part of their life.

“I don’t want to remember them like this.”

So you’re admitting your love of them is conditional? That there’s a certain point that disease or disability can bring them to where you no longer wish to know them? Their decline may be difficult to watch, but you can’t abandon them to deal with it alone. If you really love them, you can love them through every point of their life. Don’t let fear cast out love.

As someone who has spent a great amount of time around the disabled, especially around those with alzheimers and other dementia, the worst thing you can do if you love them is to leave them lonely.

The elderly are so lonely. They have few visitors in nursing homes filled with elder abuse. They are forgotten by the world. Their dementia does change them. And it will be the hardest thing you watch as they slowly lose function and their sense of self. I went through it when I was my grandmas caretaker at 16 yrs old. She had Alzheimer’s, parkingsons and hallucinations. Even to this day I miss her so much and she has been gone going on seven years.

But if you give yourself a chance to care for these people, for your loved ones, and approach it with love and compassion you’ll find the most profound moments of joy and life in the midst of loss and grief.

What people don’t often know is that there is something called “anticipatory grieving”. We grieve preemptively when we expect loss, like when a loved one is given a terminal diagnosis like dementia. People should be aware of this so their feelings don’t hamper their decision making process when it comes to decide what to do with a loved one.

Caregiving is stressful and difficult. Burnout is common. If you find yourself in the caregiver role don’t be afraid to ask for help, or get respite. You don’t have to do it on your own, and the moments you spend with your loved on will be precious to you when they are gone.

In memory of Grandma P

kosmogrl:

eldritchsquared:

doctor voice hello yes im here returning your call about scheduling! ^_^ so the next appointment we have is tomorrow at 4am. after that the earliest we can get you in is december 2025… either of those sound good to you?

deerdroo:

only-tiktoks:

Translation:

Hey, people. Today we’re cooking a little puppy to serve with the rice we have over there. We let it simmer for a while.

Ten minutes later, there it is, a bit brown, we stir it a little and let it simmer for another 10 minutes.

Now it must be almost done… Yeah, it’s almost done to perfection. I’m gonna give it 5 seconds more… Uh? My mother’s calling, I’m gonna check what does she want.

Oh, damn it…! I left it like 5 minutes… (gasps) it’s burned, it’s burned it'sburnedit'sburnedit'sburned. We’ll have to leave this recipe for other day. No, look how it ended up! it’s charred, completely charred

mrnargle:

whenever my program freezes

that-catholic-shinobi:

purple-purple-pink-purple:

that-catholic-shinobi:

cir-c:

that-catholic-shinobi:

windsroad:

The funny thing about Christians thinking Halloween is evil is that I am Very Catholic and it Catholic school they made us learn why Halloween is not evil and also Very Catholic every year, but this would do nothing to assuage the concerns of half of Christianity

Every year around this time i’m reminded what a mistake the protestant revolt was

It’s evil when you make little children dress up as demons and decorate your house with skulls and bloody body parts

nothing about halloween is demonic that’s a costume/ secular parenting choice. Culture has influenced the holiday

But the roots of All Hallows Eve are Catholic, as a time to pray for the dead and remember our Saints and mortality.

Also, in Catholic tradition, the respectful display of bodies/ body parts isn’t taboo in the right circumstances. The bones and incorrupt bodies of Saints are often displayed. Charnels wee built from the bones of the faithful for people to meditate on their death and for prayer. Though a lot of these rules/ norms differed depending on time/ place. Right now my church has two Priests buried near the front of the church.

There’s a lot more to Halloween than just “spooky is bad”

Attitudes towards death and bodies are very culturally influenced. Even between Christian cultures throughout time, there’s been huge differences. Up until the mid 19th century when embalming became a thing (in America) families would care for bodies in their homes for a few days before burial. In medieval Europe, the graveyards- next to the church- were basically festival grounds. It was even believed that cows who grazed on graveyard grass had sweeter milk.

You don’t have to like or participate in the scary costumes. Have your kids dress as heroes or saints, or remember that maybe reminders of death are good for us sometimes. They tell us to do good while we’re still living. But there’s nothing demonic about trick or treating or carving jack-o’-lanterns. There’s nothing demonic about being scared in a safe, fun environment.

And you can always go to church on All Hallows Day (All Saints Day) on Nov 1 and All Soul’s Day on Nov 2.

Reminder that All Saints is also Holy Day of Obligation. All Faithful Catholics are obliged to attend Holy Mass

fatsoupy:

fatsoupy:

eye-opening tumblr post for me included the words “people are meant to be burdens” as in humans rely on and support one another and it’s not a bother it’s our purpose; to love and be loved in return. so if you ever think you’re being annoying just remember we were made to love and it’s going to be okay

coming from the perspective of an addict in recovery. i’m a lot, i need help, i am a burden, and i am so, so loved and supported by my friends and family. i owe them my life and my heart

officialyourdailyinspiration:

shirkers2018dirsanditan:

biological differences between men and women are inherently neutral. they do not indicate male superiority over female people. to suggest so is inherently sexist. to complain when female sports cater to female anatomy - such as the smaller balls in the wnba because women tend to have smaller hands - is what sexists do. they want women to be forced to prove ourselves according to standards designed for men because they want to see us fail. it is sexist to argue that women who wish to compete on their own terms are pronouncing themselves as inferior. nobody said that but you. because you’re a sexist that hates women